How to ask for what you want and get it.

Do you have what you really want? If not, consider it is because you are not great at asking for what you really want.

Let’s look at the art of making requests, most people are not good at making requests, let’s face it, most people are really bad at making requests. We say things like “I need a raise” or “I want more help around the house”, or “My back is killing me” (expecting them to offer that backrub if they really love you vs asking for a 10 minute backrub)

Making clean and straight requests is a skill that can truly transform both our personal and professional lives. Whether we’re interacting with colleagues at work or navigating relationships at home, learning to ask for what we need is essential for fostering collaboration, support, and mutual respect.

Here’s the thing: making requests isn’t about demanding or imposing our will on others. It’s about expressing our needs and desires in a clear, respectful manner, while also being open to negotiation and compromise. When done thoughtfully, making requests can strengthen relationships, increase productivity, and enhance overall well-being.

So, what kind of requests can we make? The possibilities are endless, but here are a few examples to get you started

1. “I request that we schedule a weekly team meeting to discuss project updates and priorities.”
2. “I request that you clean the kitchen after dinner tonight.”
3. “I request that we set aside 30 minutes each evening to spend quality time together, without distractions.”
4. “I request that you complete the budget report by 5pm on Friday.”
5. “I request that you let me know in advance if you’re going to be late for our scheduled appointment.”
6. “I request that we establish a rotating schedule for household chores, so that responsibilities are evenly distributed.”
7. “I request that we prioritize self-care by scheduling exercise and relaxation activities 4x weekly.”
8. “I request that we hold monthly check-in meetings to discuss our progress towards our personal and professional goals.”
9. “I request you reply to my emails and texts within 24 hours.”

Remember, making requests is a two-way street. It’s not just about asking for what we want, but also being willing to listen to the needs and preferences of others. By fostering open communication and mutual respect, we can create a supportive environment where everyone feels valued and empowered to succeed.

So, the next time you find yourself in need of assistance or support, don’t hesitate to make a request. You might be surprised at the positive impact it can have on your relationships and your overall quality of life.